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breastfeeding is the best so back off!

February 10, 2010

So, some dumb ass answered a message board post I had put up looking for advice on how to get Eli to stop throwing his pacifier out of the crib.  Here’s what her reply said (having nothing to do with my request):
Instead of worrying so much about his pacifer, I’d be more concerned that you are still breastfeeding him at his age. If he’s on solid food, which I hope he is, he doesn’t need to breastfeed any more. It’s more for you than it is for him and that’s kind of strange. Wheat are you going to do when the new baby is here…. Put one kid on each breast? Kids should know how to use a sippy cup at a year old. If you’re really worried about nutrition for him,use a breast pump and put it in a cup.

So, since I took the time to write this up in defense of Eli’s needs, I thought I might as well copy and paste it here for anyone else who is retarded enough to have the same thoughts.  Hope this sets you straight if you think formula is as good as breast milk or that it has to stop any time before the age of 2!  I’ll put it in a blog as well so it will be around forever! lol

Sorry, but that’s one of the dumbest things I’ve ever heard.  You need to do some research if you think that breastfeeding needs to stop at a year.  They have done study after study and children benefit from breastfeeding as long as it continues.  The AAP recommends AT LEAST a year and then as long as it works for BOTH mother and child.  I don’t do it for me, I do it because my son hasn’t shown any sign of weaning.  I’d love to have my breasts back to milk-free and I’m sure my husband would, too!
The WHO recommends at least TWO years!  The U.S. Surgeon General recommends that babies be fed with breast milk only — no formula or solids — for the first 6 months of life. It is better to breastfeed for 6 months and best to breastfeed for 12 months, or for as long as you and your baby wish. Solid foods can be introduced when the baby is 6 months old, while you continue to breastfeed.
NO WHERE will you find scientific evidence that it’s bad to continue to breastfeed past the age of one.  I’m sorry you have been given (or maybe you just assumed) this information.  There are a lot of doctors out there who aren’t up to date on their breastfeeding statistics.  Because I breastfeed, my child has higher immunities to illnesses like colds and the flu.  He’s only been sick ONCE in 13 months and that was a mild cold with a snotty nose, nothing else.  “Breast milk has agents (called antibodies) in it to help protect infants from bacteria and viruses and to help them fight off infection and disease.”  No ear infections (another proven benefit of breastfeeding because of positioning and the need for a stronger suck than on a bottle or sippy cup).  And he’s smarter, another thing you can look up.  Breastfed babies have a higher IQ and the longer they are breastfed, the more it helps.  Longer breastfeeding also contributes to lower allergies (both food and environmental).

This is not new information, I’m surprised every time I hear ignorance like yours.
Here are some 2005 findings by the AAP:
“Studies on infants provide evidence that breastfeeding can decrease the incidence or severity of conditions such as diarrhea, ear infections and bacterial meningitis. Some studies also suggest that breastfeeding may offer protection against sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), diabetes, obesity and asthma among others.”
The 2005 policy recommendations include:
~ Exclusive breastfeeding for approximately the first six months and support for breastfeeding for the first year and beyond as long as mutually desired by mother and child (no FORCED weaning)
~ Mother and infant should sleep in proximity to each other to facilitate breastfeeding
~ Pediatricians should counsel adoptive mothers on the benefits of induced lactation through hormonal therapy or mechanical stimulation (yup, that means you should be nursing your adoptive children as well as your biological)
~ Recognize and work with cultural diversity in breastfeeding practices (breastfeeding 2 years and on)
~ In the second year (12-23 months), 448 mL of breastmilk provides:
o 29% of energy requirements
o 43% of protein requirements
o 36% of calcium requirements
o 75% of vitamin A requirements
o 76% of folate requirements
o 94% of vitamin B12 requirements
o 60% of vitamin C requirements
— Dewey 2001
~ It’s not uncommon for weaning to be recommended for toddlers who are eating few solids. However, this recommendation is not supported by research. According to Sally Kneidel in “Nursing Beyond One Year” (New Beginnings, Vol. 6 No. 4, July-August 1990, pp. 99-103.)
Nursing toddlers are SICK LESS OFTEN
~ The American Academy of Family Physicians notes that children weaned before two years of age are at increased risk of illness (AAFP 2001).
~ Nursing toddlers between the ages of 16 and 30 months have been found to have fewer illnesses and illnesses of shorter duration than their non-nursing peers (Gulick 1986).
~ Antibodies are abundant in human milk throughout lactation” (Nutrition During Lactation 1991; p. 134). In fact, some of the immune factors in breastmilk increase in concentration during the second year and also during the weaning process. (Goldman 1983, Goldman & Goldblum 1983, Institute of Medicine 1991).
~ Per the World Health Organization, “a modest increase in breastfeeding rates could prevent up to 10% of all deaths of children under five: Breastfeeding plays an essential and sometimes underestimated role in the treatment and prevention of childhood illness.”
Nursing toddlers have FEWER ALLERGIES

~ Many studies have shown that one of the best ways to prevent allergies and asthma is to breastfeed exclusively for at least 6 months and continue breastfeeding long-term after that point.

Breastfeeding can be helpful for preventing allergy by:
1. reducing exposure to potential allergens (the later baby is exposed, the less likely that there will be an allergic reaction),
2. speeding maturation of the protective intestinal barrier in baby’s gut,
3. coating the gut and providing a barrier to potentially allergenic molecules,
4. providing anti-inflammatory properties that reduce the risk of infections (which can act as allergy triggers).
Nursing toddlers are SMART
~ Extensive research on the relationship between cognitive achievement (IQ scores, grades in school) and breastfeeding has shown the greatest gains for those children breastfed the longest.

Benefits to mom:
“Research indicates that breastfeeding can reduce a mother’s risk of several medical conditions, including ovarian and breast cancer, and possibly a decreased risk of hip fractures and osteoporosis in the postmenopausal period.”  The longer you breastfeed, the better off you are because it decreases hormones in your body that lead to cancers.
MOTHERS also benefit from nursing past infancy

* Extended nursing delays the return of fertility in some women by suppressing ovulation (References).

* Breastfeeding reduces the risk of breast cancer (References). Studies have found a significant inverse association between duration of lactation and breast cancer risk.

* Breastfeeding reduces the risk of ovarian cancer (References).

* Breastfeeding reduces the risk of uterine cancer (References).

* Breastfeeding reduces the risk of endometrial cancer (References).

* Breastfeeding protects against osteoporosis. During lactation a mother may experience decreases of bone mineral. A nursing mom’s bone mineral density may be reduced in the whole body by 1 to 2 percent while she is still nursing. This is gained back, and bone mineral density may actually increase, when the baby is weaned from the breast. This is not dependent on additional calcium supplementation in the mother’s diet. (References).

* Breastfeeding reduces the risk of rheumatoid arthritis. (References).

* Breastfeeding has been shown to decrease insulin requirements in diabetic women (References).

* Breastfeeding moms tend to lose weight easier (References).

I’m guessing you are not in the medical field, I certainly hope not.  I also hope you aren’t spreading this misinformation about a natural process to too many people.

Feel free to do some research and try to contradict me, you won’t be able to.  And, for the record, yes, it’s called TANDEM NURSING.  It’s been going on since the beginning of time.  You feed the baby first to make sure they get what then need and then continue with the older child.  No different than nursing twins.

All this information was easily found in about a half hour.  Here’s where I got my information:

Where did you get yours?  I’m guessing it’s just the opinions of people around you or a doctor who isn’t up to date in his breastfeeding information.  I Googled “you shouldn’t breastfeed a toddler”, “not good to breastfeed a toddler”, and “risks of breastfeed a toddler” and NOTHING  to support these statements came up.  NOTHING.  Each statement only brought up links I had already checked on benefits of breastfeeding and support information.

Look down on all of us moms who are only doing what is best for your toddlers, but you have nothing to back up your statement except ignorance and old information.  And in the future, answer the question that is asked, don’t put in your opinions when they aren’t asked for or needed and have NOTHING to do with the advice being sought.

Why Jordan is intact

October 23, 2009

This might be more explanation than you were looking for…We had our first circ’ed because I didn’t know any better and basically left it up to my husband and figured “everyone does it, there’s no reason not to”.  He’s done and wanted his son(s) to be like him.  I also believed all those assumptions that it’s more hygienic and healthier.  At our hospital, the OB does it, not a pediatrician.  We did ask that he was numbed and my doc said she won’t do it otherwise, she doesn’t believe they can’t feel it.  From the beginning we had trouble.  She didn’t take off enough skin which has led to adhesions and constant redness and puffiness.  Most of the adhesions have let go and I’m told that the others may or may not.  If not, I will have to decide if we want them cut or left and if they are left, they could cause him pain later on then have to be cut, or they could aid him in regrowing his foreskin if he wanted to (yes, I guess this is possible!).

It wasn’t until I met other moms who don’t circ and I got pregnant again that I really looked in to it and found that there is no reason to circ and that there is no medical association on earth that recommends it!  Some insurance companies won’t even pay for it because it’s considered cosmetic.  I wish I had known that.  I also didn’t know that 1/3 of sexual pleasure is stolen with that skin:(  I now agree with most non-circ activists and consider it genital mutilation.  It doesn’t matter that it’s common, it’s no different than cutting a clitoris off just because it’s common in a tribe.  If there is no reason to do it, and we force it on babies, it’s’ mutilation.  If my second son decides he doesn’t like his non-circ’ed penis later on, he can always have it done, but it takes a lot of time and effort to regrow the foreskin (I will be getting all the info I can in case my first son wants to rectify our mistake).  People claim that it’s “cleaner” or “more hygienic” and that they do it “just in case”.  That’s like taking out every baby’s appendix at birth just so it doesn’t have to be done later in case they get appendicitis.

My husband didn’t agree, but when I asked him a few months ago said that he wasn’t mad that I wouldn’t let it be done again.  But no matter who wants it and who doesn’t, in the end both parents have to sign off on it and if the anti-circ parent cares enough, s/he can just refuse the surgery.  That is what it came down to with my husband.  In the end, I told him that I was the one going through pregnancy and labor and birth and if it was a boy (we didn’t find out either time) he would be perfect the way he came out.  I apologized to him for not being able to come to an agreement, but it was going to be my choice.  I did want to make him watch a video on circ but my friend who owns it was out of town and I went in to labor before I could get it.  I asked him later if it bothered him and he said it didn’t.  I think after you see your perfect baby and change diapers for a week, you forget that it looks different than some penises., and have some of the best information.  Or go to YouTube and search for Penn & Teller’s “BullShit” episode on Circumcision.  It’s go so much great information!

One last thought…I have come to look at it this way:  It’s not needed.  So, let’s compare it to a nose job.  You had a nose job and now you want your baby girl to look like you, so you have her nose altered to match yours at birth.  Uneeded?  Yup.  Crazy?  Sure.  Why is circumcision any different?  It’s an uneeded, painful surgery that we do because dad had it done.  I feel so much regret every time I change my son’s diaper and I wish just one person had told me that I shouldn’t do it and given me the facts…At least I saved my second son from it:)

Crying for Comfort

October 14, 2009

I’m tired of the CIO crap I hear from people.  I just don’t think there’s anything compassionate about letting a child scream himself to sleep.  I’m really not looking for a debate.  If you’re interested read the article.  If you think babies need to “learn to self-soothe” then feel free to move on.  Thanks:)